“Men that know love dynamics fulfill their wildest dreams. Men that do not, encounter limitless suffering.”

- Michael Herlache MBA

Growing up in a single parent household raised by my mother meant that I did not learn love dynamics as a child or young man. As the quote states, men that do not know love dynamics encounter great suffering in their life.

My first serious long-term relationship was with a girl that walked all over me and the only defense I had was the maxim I was taught, “Just be nice” from my mother. Needless to say that this lead to daily suffering in the relationship.

It wasn’t until the winter of 2007, when I met my soon to be mentor that my life would change. James helped me to recover from my ‘nice guy syndrome’ and reprogram me to be an assertive and masculine male.

As my mindset shifted from beta to alpha, my behavior changed as well. I began teasing her frame/bad behavior instead of getting upset by it or reacting to it and this lead to establishing dominance in the interaction and reclaiming my masculinity.

By remasculinizing myself and sexualizing the interaction I introduced the justice concept into the relationship. Her virtue would no longer be assumed onto her but rather had to be earned through good behavior. Bad behavior would no longer be rewarded but would cause me to redirect my focus elsewhere.

As you can imagine this completely altered the dynamic of the relationship and she began to behave like the girl I knew was under her terrible behavior. She began to chase me and we enjoyed an amazing relationship.

Changes like this one are possible if you make the conscious decision to have a growth mindset and commit to learning and mastering the concepts in the book.

The ultimate purpose of this book is to bridge the gap between the academic and the practitioner in order to build a body of applicable knowledge in the field of Love Dynamics.